This week was great for reflection on what the underlying beliefs, patterns or behaviours feed the scarcity program….enabling it to continue to thrive while our naturalness is ostensibly abundance. Have you ever wondered, how does this begin?
Reflection about the legacy of our ancestors with relation to money is time well spent. Knowing if they were in poverty, homeless, starving, forced into slavery or servitude….this DNA from our collective past is brought forward by behaviours passed down in our homes. Recognizing how hard, or how easy, it was for our ancestors to provide a life for themselves and their children (us) can be a key to understanding our underlying belief system.
Whole counselling modalities are based on facilitating the replacement of healthy beliefs where clients have identified destructive beliefs. It is a central part of what occurs inside the coaching process as well. What is one of the roots of how to replace belief systems? First is a commitment to the awareness that we all run unconscious or ancestral systems UNTIL we assess them and choose a conscious system for ourselves….one way to begin this is: letting go.
The “letting go” process involves forgiveness, which is where we gift ourselves freedom from guilt and self attack. My coaches ascribe to a self-awareness diagram called the “triangle model” which states that prior to forgiveness, one must first desire to understand the situation (in this case your ancestral past relationship to money, wealth, etc) after looking with mature eyes on all aspects of the story then comes compassion for the relatives involved. The following stage is difficult, but necessary prior to being able to move on to forgiveness: ACCEPTANCE. This is where after attempting to understand and have compassion, we embody the thought: “they did the best they could with what they had at the time”. That is the essence of acceptance.
ONLY after these steps are complete can we take a good, hard look in the mirror for any residual guilt we feel about the situation. Forgive the past, the relatives, forgive ourselves and allow a new level of competence and commitment to the future settle over us.
Questions for self reflection:
1. What were my great grandparents doing to earn a living?
2. What were my grandparents thoughts on debt?
3. What are my parents judgments on wealth?
4. How do the answers to these questions help me gain more awareness about my beliefs and wisdom about my financial situation?
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